when someone is shaking and hyperventilating

when someone is shaking and hyperventilating because of your behavior but you walk up to them and say "do you want me to move out" INSTEAD of "let me stop treating you this way" then you are a narcissist who can't think of anyone but yourself.  For someone who "loved" me and "didn't want a divorce" he sure had no problem pushing me over the edge while I begged him to stop time and time again.